We are passionate people. We love hard and we fight hard. We have strong beliefs and we have spent our entire lives before being in relationship doing things our own way. It is only natural to have disagreements once we find ourselves committing to another person. Fights and conflict are not only healthy signs of a relationship, but can help deepen your understanding of your partner, in turn deepening your commitment to them.
There I sat. Holding the hand of a man who had lost so much in the past handful of months.
Both of his legs
His ability to care for himself
His identity as a man; as a provider for his family
He told me his story, openly and honestly. He told me what he longs for, his deepest regrets and his fear of what his future holds.
Then, we sat in silence. We sat with intention; holding space for these losses, for his pain, to be there, just as they were. Raw. Unedited
If you’ve read my post “Insight From a 5 Year Old” you know that like many women, I have had some struggles with my body image. So much so, that at one point, I wrote in giant letters
SARAH, STOP BEING SO FAT
across my bedroom mirror.
I was convinced that if I changed the way my body looked, I would start to believe in myself (maybe love myself?!) and feel worthy of my job, my relationships and really, my life.
How often do you notice that nagging voice in your head that reminds you of all of your faults? Maybe you’ve become so used to it that you’ve stopped realizing how hurtful it can be.
A couple of years after graduating from college I had gained a significant amount of weight. I had no clue where to start to lose it, but I was feeling pretty terrible about myself. In an attempt to remind myself that I needed to make some changes, I wrote “SARAH, STOP BEING SO FAT” across the mirror in my bathroom with a dry erase marker.