When it comes to healing from years of body shame and body loathing it can feel counterintuitive work toward this one thing...
Decentering your appearance.
And do what instead, you ask?
"I want to lose weight because I want to get healthy."
"I need to lose weight because I need to get healthy."
"I'm not healthy in this body."
Sarah, have you ever had similar thoughts?
I'm sure you have! Because most people I chat with everyday have them, have had them and are bound to continue have them!
Can we talk a little bit about why?
*This blog contain a brief discussion on loss and death*
Last week 2 people I knew and deeply respected throughout different seasons of my life died.
Now, these folks weren’t active participants in my current life, but both of these deaths seemed quite sudden, untimely and unexpected.
The shock and waves of sadness for them, their families, their friends and their communities were palpable in my mind and in my body as the week closed out.
And it really got me thinking about legacy.
The decision to take steps to recover from disordered eating and body shame is a difficult one. It’s a decision that many people make because they really have no clue what else to do.
Diets? Tried them. ALL.
Clothing sizes? Got them. ALL.
Self-judgement? Done it. ALL.
Realizing that you’ve been caught in a seemingly endless trap of restriction, binging, judgement, shame and blame can leave you feeling helpless and hopeless.