The Reclaim You Blog

You know that feeling when your nervous system is like a smoke alarm that won't shut off?

Heart pounding, thoughts racing, jaw clenched so tight you could crack a walnut?

Yeah, that's one end of the spectrum.

Emotional regulation (the thing everyone keeps telling you to work on) isn’t about controlling your feelings or becoming some perfectly balanced human who never loses their cool. It’s about your body finally feeling safe enough to experience what you’re feeling without either exploding or going completely offline.

That noticing created a tiny pause, just enough space to shift my attention to the changing colors all around me. Reds and oranges and that specific shade of yellow that only happens in October.

A deeper breath came in. My shoulders dropped half an inch.

You know that feeling when you’re standing in front of the cereal aisle, frozen, because you can’t decide which box to buy? Or when someone asks what you want for dinner and your brain just… blanks?

Maybe you’ve been putting off looking for help because you don’t even know where to start. Or you’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t quite land, so now you’re hesitant to try again. You know you need something, but the options feel endless and confusing. Do you need a therapist? A support group? Something else entirely?

Here’s what I want you to know: you don’t have to figure this out alone.

If you’re living with flashbacks, stuck in cycles of hypervigilance or people-pleasing, or feeling disconnected from yourself, EMDR may be the tool that finally helps you feel less at war with your own nervous system.

We offer EMDR therapy in-person at our Horsham office and online across Pennsylvania, serving clients throughout Montgomery County and beyond.

It can feel so painful when it feels like loneliness just.won’t.let.go.

Friend, you’re absolutely not alone in this.

Real talk… loneliness has become an epidemic.

Emails answered, kids fed, bills paid, that work project submitted on time. From the outside, you've really got your shit together.

But inside? You feel like you're watching your own life through foggy glass, going through the motions while some essential part of you has quietly slipped away.

Walking into your first EMDR session can feel a little like walking into the unknown. You've read about it, maybe watched a video or two, and you know it's supposed to help with trauma. But what actually happens when you sit down in that room (or log into that Zoom call) for the first time?

The nervousness makes sense.

Betrayal trauma isn't just heartbreak.

It's your body losing its blueprint for safety.

This isn't ordinary loss. This cuts at the core of what it means to be human; our need for trust, safety, and belonging.

Have you ever been going about your day making coffee, answering emails, having conversations but felt like you were watching it all happen from somewhere else? Like you were floating above your own life, present but not really there?

You're not just looking for someone with a degree on the wall. You're looking for someone who feels safe, understands what you've lived through, and knows how to help your nervous system shift out of survival mode.

If you're in Horsham or Montgomery County and considering EMDR therapy, here's what you need to know about choosing the right fit.

Even if you haven't been in school for decades, there's something about this time of year that whispers "fresh start." September just has this energy, doesn't it?

New routines, new intentions, maybe even new yoga mats gathering dust in the corner (no judgment here).

Yoga teachers often talk about hips as "storage places" for trauma, but the reality is more nuanced than that. Trauma isn't literally stuffed into your hip muscles like your clothes in a closet. What's actually happening is far more fascinating.

When Taylor Swift opened up about her eating disorder in the documentary Miss Americana, it felt like the cultural conversation around body image and eating disorders truly began to shift. This wasn’t just another celebrity confession.

Here's the reality. Good EMDR treatment moves at YOUR pace, not some predetermined timeline. If you've been hurt by therapists who pushed too hard or told you to "just get over it," this is going to feel different.

Let us walk you through what actually happens, step by step, so you can show up knowing exactly what to expect.

You're Googling "is EMDR therapy right for me" at 2 AM again, aren't you?

Listen, I get it.

You've heard about EMDR therapy, maybe from a friend, a podcast, or that one Instagram therapist who actually makes sense.

You call it "just how I am.”

But, doesn't it sometimes feel lonely in that carefully constructed fortress of self-reliance?

From the outside, you seem capable.

But, inside? You might be quietly unraveling.

That’s not just burnout. That’s the overfunctioning trauma response, a nervous system stuck in overdrive, long after danger has passed.

Summer hits and suddenly everyone's calendar looks like a game of Tetris gone wrong. Pool parties, vacations, work deadlines before time off, kids' activities cranked up to eleven.

The cultural message is clear: summer equals hustle, even if that hustle involves fun.

We tend to talk about trauma responses in terms of fight, flight, orfreeze trauma response. But there’s a fourth one we don’t talk about nearly enough, fawn.

"Triggered" has become one of those words that gets thrown around everywhere.

On Instagram captions, in group chats, even as a joke at the dinner table.

But if you’ve lived through trauma, emotional neglect, or a chronically unsafe upbringing, you know that being triggered is anything but funny.

If the idea of yoga makes you feel excited and self-conscious, curious and overwhelmed, welcome! You’re not alone, so many people have a very similar experience.

Maybe you’ve never stepped on a mat because you weren’t sure your body, your anxiety, or your trauma history could actually feel safe in that space.

Understanding the intricate connection between binge eating and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) is crucial in your journey toward healing and recovery

Rather than focusing on perfect poses or performance, it centers choice, consent, and body awareness, creating a space where you’re invited to move at your own pace, stay connected to what feels safe, and rebuild trust in your body over time.

It’s not about “fixing” anything. It’s about offering your body the care, attunement, and autonomy it may not have had before.

You know that kind of relationship that feels electric at first?

The one that sweeps you up, makes you feel chosen, alive, like maybe this time, finally, you’ve found something real?

But then, almost without warning, it shifts.

The warmth cools.

The attention fades.

And, you’re left holding the thread, trying to make sense of what just happened.

Let’s be real: maladaptive perfectionism is like that mother-in-law who shows up uninvited and starts reorganizing your kitchen.

At first, it seems helpful. Motivating, even. You tell yourself, “Well… she means well.”

But next thing you know, everything’s in a “better” place… and you can’t find a damn thing anymore.

The practice of yoga has offered me so much over the years. It’s hard to imagine myself without the tools I've gained from this practice. 

This is not to say that yoga is the magic solution to all of our individual and worldly problems. (I wish it were!)

But instead of drifting into sleep, your thoughts pick up speed. Suddenly, you’re reviewing every awkward conversation you’ve ever had, planning tomorrow’s to-do list, worrying about things you can’t control, and now it’s 1:42 a.m. and your brain is still going.

Sound familiar?

Let me start with this… if you’re here, reading this, you’re probably not looking for a list of scary facts. You’ve already lived through enough of that, in your doctor’s office, in your own head, maybe even from the people who were supposed to care for you.