Emails answered, kids fed, bills paid, that work project submitted on time. From the outside, you've really got your shit together.

But inside? You feel like you're watching your own life through foggy glass, going through the motions while some essential part of you has quietly slipped away.

Betrayal trauma isn't just heartbreak.

It's your body losing its blueprint for safety.

This isn't ordinary loss. This cuts at the core of what it means to be human; our need for trust, safety, and belonging.

Have you ever been going about your day making coffee, answering emails, having conversations but felt like you were watching it all happen from somewhere else? Like you were floating above your own life, present but not really there?

You call it "just how I am.”

But, doesn't it sometimes feel lonely in that carefully constructed fortress of self-reliance?

From the outside, you seem capable.

But, inside? You might be quietly unraveling.

That’s not just burnout. That’s the overfunctioning trauma response, a nervous system stuck in overdrive, long after danger has passed.

We tend to talk about trauma responses in terms of fight, flight, orfreeze trauma response. But there’s a fourth one we don’t talk about nearly enough, fawn.

"Triggered" has become one of those words that gets thrown around everywhere.

On Instagram captions, in group chats, even as a joke at the dinner table.

But if you’ve lived through trauma, emotional neglect, or a chronically unsafe upbringing, you know that being triggered is anything but funny.